This Christmas is going to be the fourth without my mum, as she died of cancer in June 2018.  Every year as Christmas approaches, I feel a sense of dread that I never did when she was alive.  As National Grief Awareness Week (2-8th December 2021) is underway, here are a selection of reasons why we might feel dread.…

I would like to think that if challenged to go and live on a desert island with only a couple of essential items that I would be able to choose fun, frivolous things because I am carefree, spontaneous and adaptable.  It appears though after I gave this some thought that I am none of these things and if I had…

It seems you can’t scroll longer than 30 seconds on social media these days without stumbling across a mantra, a wise quote or an affirmation.  There are a few that offer some good advice, and handy words to live by, and even though I understand them, and think that they would benefit my day to day life I still can’t…

Jessica breastfeeding her newborn

I have now had three experiences of breastfeeding. Each one has been completely different to the other and the reality, in short, is that it is really bloody hard work! It's got to be, arguably, one of the most beautiful things of motherhood whilst simultaneously being one of the most difficult.Just over ten years ago when I was pregnant with…

I'm Lucy and I'm an ambivert. Whenever I have seen people I follow ask on their Stories whether we're an Introvert or Extrovert, I never know which option on the poll to tap. I tap on the one which depends on what my current activity is. If I'm sat inside watching The Repair Shop with a cuppa, then I tap…

Sometimes being a Mum fucking sucks. Like actually sucks. From the refusing to wash battles to the “I can’t get comfortable” ones. The “she looked at me” and the “I hate my dinner even though it was my favourite last week”. I cried today. Not because of the cancer. Not because of anything other than because being a Mum is…

As the nights start to draw in, there are some seasonal swaps we all invariably make. The iced lattes get replaced by pumpkin spice lattes. We swap beer gardens for the Great British Bake Off. And Hot Girl Summer makes way for… Cuffing Season? Cuffing Season According to the dictionary, cuffing season is; ‘…a period of time where single people…

Dear Donna,   This feature is my absolute favourite part of House 21! Here’s my problem for you, I hope you’ll want to have a look at it.   My friend has chosen to have a physical relationship with a boy who we know has a girlfriend. I have tried and tried to tell her that this isn’t right, but…

We don't have any neighbours for maybe half a mile or so in each direction.  Just open fields and more wildlife than you can shake a stick at.  So imagine my surprise when I found someone lurking around having what he told me was a leisurely stroll in the field next to our house. Me: Hi, can I help you?…

If you only knew the life in store for you, the memories you’ll make and the hardships you’ll overcome. Maybe you’d be less throwaway with your comments on parenthood. Maybe you’d think twice before you said things like ‘You’re only pregnant, not ill’ or ‘People have kids every day it can’t be that hard’ If you knew at this point…