I’m another year older now and hopefully another year wiser. I’ve learnt a lot in my thirty years and wanted to expand on that with todays post. Here’s 10 things you need to start doing to live a happier life.
How to live happier.
1. Allow yourself to dream.
I’m the Queen of self doubt. It drives my husband wild! Believing in yourself and trusting your gut enough to take a chance on yourself can be the hardest yet most rewarding thing. I took the plunge at the beginning of the year taking my blog full time. That was my dream! It’s been highly advantageous not only for myself, but for my family too. Allowing myself to dream and being able to take a chance on myself has even spurred me on to co-author a book, something past Claire would never have believed possible!
2. Live in the present.
Living in the present can be quite difficult nowadays. The pressures of social media make it almost impossible. Something you need to start doing in order to live your best life is to separate the two. As a blogger I feel the pressure to be online all of the time, when in reality, we need to take breaks, we need to rest and recharge. We need to live in the present in order to live a happier life.
3. Stop running.
I’m very big on owning my mistakes. To me there’s nothing worse than beating around the bush, making excuses or running away from problems. I’m a ‘lets face this head on’ type of person when it comes to problem solving. The ability to nip something in the bud can instantly make you live a happier life. There’s nothing worse than holding a grudge and having negative feelings festering up inside you. Life’s too short!
4. Take one step at a time.
I used to be that person who would set the most unrealistic of goals. These goals would almost never be met and I’d be left feeling discouraged, unmotivated and would fall back into a slump. By taking one step at a time and setting small, manageable goals you’ll reach those big goals in no time!
5. Be just a little bit selfish.
I’m a pretty selfless person, I always have been, but I definitely prioritised other peoples happiness over my own in the past. I’m a people pleaser and still am to some extent, however I really feel that something you need to start doing for yourself is being a little bit selfish… Just enough so that the balance is right!
6. Spend time outdoors.
Mother nature really is a wonderful thing. I think even if you’re not the outdoorsy type (I’m not talking scaling Ben Nevis here) spending time outdoors can impact your happiness massively. There’s something about connecting with nature that instantly puts things into perspective for me… Even more so on solo walks. I don’t get many of those these days, but boy oh boy, I love a good solo walk; Just me, myself & my thoughts.
7. Own who you are.
Being comfortable with who you are is something I’m so passionate about! For decades I was held back by my shyness and the inability to shine. Now I understand that it isn’t the loudest voice in the room that can make the biggest impact. Although my confidence has grown tenfold, I’m still a relatively introverted person, and I’m okay with that. What I once saw as my biggest flaw no longer bothers me. I’m comfortable with who I am and owning every part of it.
8. Make life simpler.
If the pandemic has taught me anything it’s to make life simpler. I’ve especially learnt this as a parent during lockdown. You don’t have to do it all and you most certainly don’t have to keep up with appearances. Go at your own pace, make life simpler and build the life you want to live!
9. Learn to say no.
Learning so say no goes hand in hand with the people pleasing thing. It’s okay to say no to something if you don’t want to do it. Its also okay to say no to something and not feel like you need to give a ten page excuse of your reasoning.
10. Voice your thoughts.
For years my severe shyness left me unable to voice my thoughts. I was the opinion-less girl with no feelings and no personality. Being able to voice your thoughts will not only show others what type of person you are, but it’ll also make you feel a hell of a lot better too!
There’s 10 things you need to start doing for yourself to live a happier life. Obviously I’m not a life coach, life guru, whatever you want to call it. I’m just your regular gal hoping to spread a bit of positivity and offer those a chance for reflection. I’ve changed a lot about my life over the last few years, in particular my mindset and I really feel like I’m the happiest I’ve ever been!
Which of the ten pointers resonates with you most?