There have been certain periods of my life during which I’ve struggled with self-love; finding ways to increase your self-love isn’t always easy. It wasn’t exactly something that I was consciously aware of at the time, but looking back at some of my past actions, the writing was on the wall.
Many of the articles I’ve read on this topic matter haven’t helped me. The advice is often very generic when I wanted step-by-step work towards goals. So, I’ve created my own article, with the very things that have helped me tremendously.
Know Your Personality Type
I truly believe that to increase your self-love, you need to know yourself – your true self. One of the most beneficial pieces of information available is your MBTI type. Some will always be sceptical or consider it mere pop psychology, but for numerous others personality inventory is transformative. I’ve been able to realise whole aspects of my personality, which wouldn’t have been possible without seeing them put into words by someone else.
My typing is INFJ, which stands for introverted, intuitive, feeling and judging. Theoretically, INFJs are the rarest type, making up just 1 to 2% of the population. Little wonder I’ve often found myself the ‘odd one out.’ The beauty is that now I can understand why, and have learnt to appreciate my differences. MBTI has also given me a much greater understanding of others, which has led to deeper and mutually respectful relationships.
Take the MBTI Personality Test.
Check the People in Your Life
Appearances can be deceptive, sometimes none more so than the face we choose to show to the world. When you really examine those around you, confusion can set in when someone says that they care about or love you, but their actions say otherwise.
It’s important to ask yourself questions, such as is my energy increased or drained after spending time with this person? Or, does this individual support me through difficult times as well as the good?
Few things can have such a devastating impact on self-love as keeping toxic people in your life.
Make Time for Self-Care
This may seem like an obvious point, but it’s incredible just how many of us don’t prioritise it. Take a long, uninterrupted bath, try out a new makeup look, or fill your fridge with healthy and fresh foods. The goal is to learn to value yourself enough to build self-care time into your routine, which is one of the simpler ways to, in turn, increase your self-love.
Not just fleetingly, but take a long and hard look at your inner being. We spend so much time running around in life or trying to complete to-do lists that we often neglect working on our emotional health. Does your subconscious heavily influence your behaviour? Are there painful and unhealed memories from your past or perhaps even childhood buried within, which can easily be triggered?
No one is going to pretend that emotional healing is easy. However, left unchecked, the repercussions are significant, and self-esteem negatively impacted. That is a given.
In good news, and linking back to the first point, I’ve found that discovering my MBTI type a huge help in this department. Once you know yourself and have newfound clarity, you’re able to begin unravelling past perceptions, events, or people.
Once you’ve developed a stronger identity and self-love footing, creative juices start to flow. Don’t shy away from your uniqueness and embrace your authenticity. You are comparable to no one else.
Try producing or creating something that is yours and yours alone. Perhaps you like to write, or have an idea for a business? Or maybe you’ve always wanted to change the décor of your interior, or try a different personal style that’s more in line with your individuality?
When you know and accept yourself, unconditionally, everything starts to fall into place.