The world we live in is fixated with love, fixated with finding ‘our person’ not just that but the whole love, dating and relationships saga.
It is everywhere.
We scroll through social media seeing couple after couple, we talk to our friends about it, we download tinder, we delete tinder and we go around and round in search of finding the other person we are told we need to feel whole.
I’ve been that girl for so long, the girl fixated on finding my one. Fixated on a relationship in the hope that it would make me feel complete.
But the longer I have been single, the more the rose tainted glasses have become clearer. Those Instagram perfect couples I see on my newsfeed? They’re not always real, some people trade genuine love for mediocre convenient relationships, just so they can say they have someone.
People fall in love too easily, they fall in love with the potential of what could be rather than the person in front of them, the person lying next to them in their bed.
Because after all we’re the society that is obsessed with love.
And what I am starting to realise is, that isn’t always healthy.
A relationship won’t complete you.
And being single won’t kill you.
You must learn to be on your own, you must learn how to live your life by yourself and feel complete in your own skin.
Ultimately you are the only one who can complete you.
I am slowly learning to let go of all the ideas of love and relationships and live in the here and now. My life isn’t going to suddenly change when I get into a relationship. Someone else will not make me feel complete, nor will it fix a broken heart.
Don’t get me wrong, being in love is beautiful.
Being in love is something that makes me feel so happy inside and out, but being single doesn’t mean I am incomplete, it simply means that now isn’t my time.
And I know, when my time comes, that person, he will add fire to my life, he won’t complete me… because I complete me.