Break-ups? Sign me up! You know why? Simply because every break-up gifts you with the chance of a new, better beginning.
I am now talking about all sorts of break-ups: friendships, love relationships, a former job, a place where you used to live, etc. They’re all break-ups to me.
And I have to admit, I am usually the one that initiates them. You probably think I am crazy and driven a masochistic and nihilistic desire to eternally suffer. I can assure I am not and as a matter of fact, break-ups make me genuinely happy.
To own the amazing force of admitting that something in your life isn’t working properly and to be aware of your amazing power to make a change, that, my ladies, is a true gift.
It’s true, I’ve been called many names for my brutal honesty. I am true to myself, honest, therefore always honest with others. Few have the guts to digest it, as most people prefer lying to themselves and to others to avoid deeper conversations and profound emotions. Everything superficial works. But deep down, it does not. I promise you, we are simply not made that way.
Whenever my friendships or love relationships stopped working, I started dotting the i’s and crossing the t’s. You talk about it, give it a chance, but when you feel something is not right, when sh*t isn’t aligning anymore, when you get a bad vibe, when you can’t be yourself anymore, when there’s nothing left to talk or joke about, when you grow apart…it’s time to say ‘adios!‘. As simple as that. Break-up. But do it for good. The Holy Trinity of block-ignore-delete is there for you, begging for it.
Maybe one day you’ll cross paths again…maybe. Who knows? Say your apologies for everything you’ve done wrong and move on. This block-ignore-delete recipe is tried and working. Many of my friends asked for my help when they felt lost in their relationships, and my answer was always that. And no, it’s not an online-only thing. You need to mentally block your thoughts on the individual, ignore whatever signs they’re trying to give you and simply delete that person from your life. You know why? It’s NOT WORKING BETWEEN YOU! And if it doesn’t now, it most likely never will.
Oh…but that sounds selfish. I do not care – it’s my life, my rules. Everyone had their chance, I had mine, you had yours, so do yourself a favour and stop wasting precious time from your beautiful life. Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed, so make the most of today! See break-ups as a little ‘thank you!’ from the Universe. Start breathing again, start by acknowledging the actual truth in your life – it shall set you free.
How will you bounce back? Oh, honey, you will. You both will. By ‘both’ meaning your now ex, your ex-best friend, your former workplace or the place you used to call ‘home’, etc. Give serendipity a chance to surprise you when you least expect it, give life the chance to bring better people into your life, with whom you resonate deeply with, who are there for you no matter what, or to start the job you’ve always dreamt about, to move to the country or city you’ve always talked about, to find a husband and not only a boyfriend, to make friends for life instead of acquaintances or best friends.
But for that to work, my dear girl, you have to break-up with the past. Live in the present and trust the future.
Signed by the girl who initiated the break-up with all her exes (all except one, when she was 16), with all the ‘friends’ that were distant memories of what they once were, with the employers who thought she’d work extra for free, with the city she felt she was drowning in. And that girl hugs you dearly and tells you are infinitely stronger than you think. Trust yourself and sh*t will simply align, I promise.