We’re all going to experience this in some form, whether it’s a relationship break-up, the loss of a family member, or the end of a friendship.
I may be stating the bleeding obvious here, but heartbreak is upsetting, soul destroying and, well, heart-breaking. But the ‘H’ word can perhaps be seen as a blessing in disguise. Let’s put it another way; maybe it’s been sent to try us. I do believe in fate and that everything happens for a reason.
Speaking from a personal perspective, I’ve dealt with my fair share of heartbreak, as maudlin as that may sound. I’ve lost family members, both due to them passing away or having drifted too far apart. Friends who I considered BFFL’s in comp have now become complete strangers. My favourite footballer leaving Liverpool to play for another club has got to be heartbreak on another lev-
No? It’s just me who feels this way with the football thing? Umm… Okaaay, moving on swiftly, then…
Yes, heartbreak comes in all shapes and sizes, unfortunately. Remember in primary school when the boy you fancied liked one of your friends more than they did you? Well, ladies and gentlemen, that was the very first heartache we ever experienced. But we reacted to that differently to how we would now as an adult. We moved on to the next boy in the class. Oh, if only it were that simple in adulthood.
Ok my lovelies, this is what I call confession time – I’m currently going through my own spell of heartbreak.
This thing has happened and I feel destroyed. Just to make you aware and reassure you, I don’t want any worriers messaging me! It’s not health-related. If it was CF-related, I would have said something by now!
I won’t go into it here, but I haven’t even been able to talk about it to my best friend without getting tearful, I’ve struggled to get out of bed in the mornings and for the first time ever in my life, I was so upset, this happened:
One morning I didn’t eat breakfast
That is completely unheard of for me. I ALWAYS eat breakfast, whether it’s a bowl of cereal or a slice of toast, I eat anything.
Except leftover takeaway food, I really can’t understand how people can do that.
If I could pick a song that sort of sums up how I’m feeling right now, it’s Katy Perry – The One That Got Away. I might put that song on my phone right now as I write this, actually.
They say it gets easier over time, you move on and, in my case, having CF is my biggest battle to worry about anyway, so I should sail through this, no problem. But it’s easier said than done.
I just need to remember that there are brighter days coming my way. I can’t let one thing get me down forever – there’s (sorry for the clichÃ©) bigger fish to fry.
The best way to deal with heartbreak is to sleep, eat, have some space and just plough through it at your own pace. Everybody handles with heartbreak differently, there isn’t a right way or a wrong way in dealing with it. Some people hide under the duvet covers, listen to Adele or Whitney Houston songs whilst crying into a pillow, contemplating on becoming a nun when as they believe they’re destined to be alone forever. Yes, you can do that, but before you make this life-changing decision, please remember this – heartbreak, however big or small, should NOT and will NEVER define who you are and your life.
How do you personally deal with heartbreak?