This feature is my absolute favourite part of House 21! Here’s my problem for you, I hope you’ll want to have a look at it.
My friend has chosen to have a physical relationship with a boy who we know has a girlfriend. I have tried and tried to tell her that this isn’t right, but she still persists.
What makes it worse is that I’m friends with the girlfriend. This has put me in a horrible position. If I tell the girlfriend, my close friend will never speak to me again, but I feel by not telling her that I’m almost condoning it.
When my friend told me she was going to chase this guy, I seriously asked her not, but still she did.
What should I do?
Thank you for writing to me with this sensitive issue. I can certainly understand why you feel at a loss as to what to do.
This may not be the advice you were hoping for, however I feel it is best that I give you the honest advice that your loved ones might not feel comfortable giving: you need to walk away from your ‘friend’. I say this because she has no regard for who she is hurting. Furthermore, she knows the difficult situation that she has put you in and yet she has preceded. That is not somebody you need in your life. I dare say that her lack of moral countability will lead to her hurting you in the future.
In terms of whether you tell the girlfriend about what has been going on behind her back, ask yourself if you would want her to tell you if the shoe were on the other foot. There is the risk that you will receive no thanks for telling her – it is impossible to know how the girlfriend will react. That said, if you feel in your heart that you made the considerate, moral choice, then you can hold your head up high and stand by your decision.
What an unpleasant situation your ‘friend’ has put you in. I know the upcoming decisions you have to make will be tough but remember none of this is of your making.
I hope this helps.