It’s something I get called quite often and I’m just not a fan of it. Cute is something you call a puppy, a kitten, something pink and fluffy or a baby, not a grown woman. I think the reason I hate (I know hate is a strong word) it so much is that I’ve been called it so many times on Instagram posts and in life that it’s started to get on my nerves. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the compliment and the sentiment behind it, it’s so kind of people to call me something nice, but it’s just not my fave word anymore!
I don’t know why, I find being called cute more of an insult than a compliment these days. I understand why people call me cute, I have the facial features of a 12-year-old, I’m small at only 5ft 3 and I have chipmunk cheeks that would make Chip and Dale proud. Maybe that makes up to being called cute? Who knows. In the beginning, I didn’t mind being called cute as it was quite sweet that people saw me in that way. Now I’m 27, I just don’t find it a compliment so much.
I will admit that I have used the word cute in the past – but only when somebody acts in a way that is seen as cute. For example, a CF friend of mine messaged me the other day and told me she had sent her doctors a card to say thank you for taking care of her over the years. That’s something I would call cute, but mainly, kind.
Anyway, me being called cute – I don’t find it cool anymore. I don’t think people will stop calling me that as I think it’s maybe a word that they associate with me, so I will appreciate the sentiment to which it is meant rather than moan too much about it. I shouldn’t make people feel bad calling me what they perceive of me. I don’t want to scare people who want to compliment me and think they’re going to get their head bitten off. I am nice, I swear.
There are a few reasons why I hate being called cute – and they are:
1) I FIND IT PATRONISING
I’m sorry, do I look like a puppy? I feel like I should be patted on the head and fed a treat when I get called cute. Don’t get me wrong, I know you’re not trying to be rude or belittle me, but it is, for me personally, an act of infantilism being called cute. I have a car, I can drink endless amounts of vodka and cranberry juices (not literally, but you know) and I can vote. I’m not a child or a baby hippo.
2) I FEEL LIKE IT’S A PHYSICAL ASSESSMENT OF MY PERSONALITY / BODY
For me personally, being called cute means I fall into the bracket of not being exactly beautiful but not being exactly ugly either. In a way though, being called cute means I’m kind of being underestimated which is something I like, I love being underestimated, it’s such a form of empowerment for me. So that’s one positive of being called cute!
3) IT REMINDS ME THAT I’M SHORT
Yep, I don’t need reminding of that. Thanks. Now please stop towering over me and let’s get a (socially distanced) coffee.
4) IT FEELS LIKE I’M NOT BEING TAKEN SERIOUSLY
Yeah, to me it’s kind of demeaning being called cute. I’m a 27-year-old woman. I’m an independent woman. I don’t want to be called cute when I want to get my car tyres changed or when I laugh at a bird shitting on someone’s coat. Let’s be fair though, that is hilarious.
5) I’D LIKE TO BE CALLED OTHER THINGS TOO
Strong, brave, funny, kind, caring, supportive, even weird – honestly, I wouldn’t be offended in the slightest if you decided to call me weird!
6) I FEEL LIKE IT’S A STIGMA
Is this all I’ll be known as now? I really hope not! Like I said above, please call me something else. Except hun. Hun is on my hit list of words I’d like to banish from the Oxford English dictionary. Along with bae.
Ok, this post does some a little whiny and negative. I know that’s not the vibes I usually like to bring to this blog, but it’s something that’s been on my mind for a while. I don’t want people to be shit scared of saying I’m cute, call me it if that’s how you see me, I can’t and won’t ever stop you from doing that! But I kind of just wanted to say how I feel about the word in general.
Let me know your thoughts!