I wanted to write a post to mark my birthday and in a much better way than I have in previous years. If you have been following me for a while, or even just reading my blogs you will know that last year was not a good year, and although by the November I was in a better place I would never have thought I would be where I am tonight, on my birthday eve 2019.
So where am i?
I’m in a good place.
I’m happier right now than all of 2018 put together.
I’ve worked so hard to get to where I am right now, physically, mentally and emotionally and as I sit here writing this post with a Gin and lemonade in one hand, I am so proud of me.
So proud that after all that has been thrown my way that I’m here and I’m happy.
So, to all my fellow Sagittarians, I hope you’re good too and I hope you’ve enjoyed or you’re looking forward to your birthday, and if you’re having a Dawn 2018 kind of birthday, trust me it gets better.
And on that note, I wanted to write a quick post to discuss just some of the things I have learnt over the years.
No one is going to give you your happiness, you must find that for yourself.
This is honestly one of the hardest things ever, because if you’re like me you constantly look to others to fulfil you, to give you the happiness you are craving. But honestly, save yourself the heartache and trust me when I say that you must find that for yourself. If you cannot make yourself happy no one, not even Tom Hardy is going to do that for you.
Diets are shit, find your balance and work on it every day.
I myself am one of those people that is always on a diet and in the past has made me so miserable. It makes me focus on all the things I don’t like about myself rather than focusing on the good. So, although I am on a ‘diet’ I class it more as healthy eating. And as well as eating healthy, I have upped my exercise. Getting in with a personal trainer has done me wonders this year and although I go to each session hating life with gritted teeth, how I feel after and the difference in my body and my overall fitness is what keeps me motivated. And most of all, I don’t guilt myself and I don’t limit myself, if I want something I have it, I just don’t have it every day.
I always like to be a good person. I’m not saying I always have been; I have regrets, I have things I wish I could take back. But in reality, I can’t. I just have to work on being a better person, which I have been doing.
So even those times when someone is nasty, or they lose their patience with me I try not to retaliate as much as I would have done a year ago. Instead I try to understand their point of view, why are they reacting that way? I’m not saying I do this all the time; I’m just consciously making the effort to be kind whenever I can.
Because sometimes peoples anger comes from them being in a dark place.
So, if you can, be kind always because you never know what that other person may or may not be going through.
And if they’re just a dick. Well that’s okay as long as you know you’re not.
Work on your dreams
This has completely been my mantra for 2019, and do you know? I am proud of all I have achieved so far this year. I wanted to focus on my blogging… I have. I wanted to qualify as a makeup artist…I did. I wanted to gain some extra qualifications in my day job…I got them.
I’m already writing down my goals for 2020 and I wont let anything or anyone stop me from achieving them, because if this year has taught me anything it has taught me that if I put my mind to it I really can achieve anything I want.
Stop living in the past
This is a biggie for me and one I have struggled massively to get out of the habit of.
Yet it is so important.
The past is the past for a reason, leave it where it is and focus not only on your future but the present, because we are sometimes so far in the past or so far ahead to truly appreciate the here and now.
I hope you’re having a lovely end to your November.