Stepping outside of my comfort zone isn’t something I do often. I’m not the bravest of people so the thought of doing something that would make me feel uncomfortable doesn’t always appeal to me. However, during the pandemic and lockdown, I’ve done more things than ever to step outside the safe confines of my comfort zone.
I struggle with low self-esteem so doing anything new or pushing any boundaries makes my anxiety heightened and fills me with fear. I imagine, like so many other people, I run through the list of reasons why I shouldn’t do a task or take a leap of faith and eventually talk myself out of it.
So, I decided, to take the power back and try something that would push me to my limits but not terrify me altogether. My first step was to join a little group called The Abundant Goddess Circle. It’s run by a lovely lady called Heledd and is designed to help women become more tuned-in to their power and their ability to manifest positive things into their lives. I was so bowled over by the people in the group and how strong and successful they all were. They were also very welcoming too.
I was invited to join an accountability call – designed to help us talk about the things we’ve been putting off and encourage us to step outside of our comfort zones to do them. Heledd talked about the fear we all have around failure and how it stops us from doing things. And I realised, this was me. Just constantly living in fear of failing.
The one thing I’d been putting off was going live on Instagram stories. Plenty of people do this so naturally, that I’m envious of how good they are. I was so fearful that nobody wanted to listen, that I would mess up or I wouldn’t look as pristine as so many people on their Instagram video stories do.
However, the next day, I took the bull by the horns and did it. I live with a condition called Dermatillomania (skin picking) which is linked to obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). It’s always been a thing of embarrassment to me. The day I chose to post, I was struggling badly with it and wanted to put a face to the condition and talk openly about it on my stories. I recorded the video and once I’d sent it out there, a wave of relief came over me. I’d finally done it. I’d faced my fear and done it anyway, and to such a positive response. Various people responded to say they did the same thing and never realised it was a condition. Some thanked me for talking about it.
Here are a few things I did so I could step more comfortably outside my zone:
- Spoke out loud about what I wanted to do (If you say it out loud, it becomes more real)
- Wrote a list of pros and cons
- Looked at some other Instagram stories to calm my nerves
- Prepared what I was going to say
- Took some deep breaths and went for it!
Stepping outside my comfort zone was a success for me. It made me feel less afraid and instead, got me to focus on helping someone else by taking that leap.