That morning, despite waking up looking like a puffed-up panda bear, every fibre in my body felt different.
I was a single mum now and that would become my strength.
I accepted that babysitters were going to be few and far between. I grudgingly acknowledged that my days of being able to afford Gucci, having a clean car, and lying in bed past 8am were over, at least until the next decade!
But, I decided to embrace it.
I had always been hugely into personal development and it was about time I deep dived into finding strategies that would serve me. I was great at advising everyone else, but less able to look inwards. And me being me – I wasn’t willing to do things by halves.
Having escaped from reality through reading over the years, I knew what I had to do…I googled my Guru, Mr Tony Robbins, and chance would have it that he was coming to London eight months later. I’d have 8 months to find the small fortune for a ticket…eeeeeeeek!
I had no idea how I’d stump up that cash but I told everyone I knew that I was going. That this seminar would be the first chapter in my new life.
With nothing but hope and the “pay later” function on booking.com, I booked flights and a hotel.
I racked my brains for ways to pay the ticket….
Finally with nothing but hope, I begged Success Resources to allow me to pay the ticket price in instalments. They agreed but even then the monthly expenditure was huge, I just couldn’t pay my household bills and keep up with the payments. I had become the stereotype – a skint, single mum!
Well – I just wasn’t having it!!!
Two weeks before the event the universe aligned and someone unexpected wanted to help. They knew this event would improve every aspect of my being and – I had THE ticket in my hands.
This moment was the outcome of unwavering belief and visualisation (do not knock it until you’ve tried it!)
Nervous anticipation and excitement coursed my veins as walked into the stadium. Little did I know that these three days would change my life forever.
I walked over hot coals without burning my feet. I hugged strangers and massaged their shoulders (yep -Big T makes you do some crazy things!), I laughed out loud, shook my ass, sang and danced with the one and only Pitbull and I cried…I cried a lot! But I changed my thinking and learned strategies that will serve me for the rest of my life.
My limiting belief at that time was that I was held back by the fact I have children! Even now I take a deep breath as I write those words – I still find that difficult to say out loud – guilty that a mother would feel that way!
But – I changed my limiting belief into an empowering statement:
My children are my superpower!
They are my why.
And that’s what’s led me to you…
Being a mother, being a parent has taught me so much! My children teach me new things every day – about them, about me and about the world.
What I know is that we must look after ourselves FIRST because how can we possibly teach our kids about how important they are if we don’t demonstrate self-care and self-love first?
We must role model that it’s ok to be vulnerable, that we have the courage to take risks, the resilience to bounce back after adversity and hearts full enough to spread love and give to others!
Being a single parent is undoubtedly one of the hardest jobs in the world and most definitely requires moments with wine to whine but would we have it any other way?
Single parenting is a superpower and I’m using it to change the world!