If January was a colour, it would be grey. Actually, not grey because everyone seems to be loving grey at the moment… let’s go with magnolia. Why you magnolia you ask? Why boring ole magnolia? And there’s really only one answer. No one really likes magnolia. You move into a new house or new apartment and all the walls are this, not-quite-white / not-quite-beige colour and you want to decorate immediately. This is January. Everyone is still hungover and full from Christmas / New Year’s and we’re all desperate for the last 3 months of winter to be over. Everyone is desperately avoiding their bank balance and just hoping that your debit card continues to be approved.
To me, New Year is one of the most cliché times of the year, it doesn’t even come close to Valentines Day. Lose weight. Exercise more. Drink more water. Spend less time on social media. These are all resolutions that feature on many of the populations new years resolution list, be honest, at least one is on yours, isn’t it? They’ve even featured on mine in previous years but whilst every other lifestyle blog out there will probably be telling you the new year is a time for a new you, I’m going to suggest on pressing the pause button on any resolutions and spend January doing what makes you happy.
Sounds simple (and super cheesy), doesn’t it? And it is! But there are so many things that fall under this one resolution.
When I sat down with my thoughts to think of what I want to get from 2020, lots of things sprung to mind. Develop the blog, spend time with Bobby minus social media, run more and actually complete the half marathon, go back to school (in some form). The list could go on and on and on but what I essentially mean by all of these things is to do the things that make me and my family happy. Running makes me happy… am I good at it? No, but it makes me feel good. The blog… right now I enjoy few things more than sitting down to a blank screen with a cup of tea. Spending time with Bobby… no brainer. Go back to school… now I finally know what I want to study, this is actually something I cannot wait to get stuck in to.
However, I’m not going to say these are resolutions as such because what am I resolving? I’m a twenty-something mum who’s life is ever-changing. Instead of trying to resolve the things in me I’d like to change and see myself as evolving instead of self-correcting. If I don’t manage to drink water for a whole day, that’s not a broken resolution, I’ll try again tomorrow.
Personally, I find the pressure of resolutions very daunting and personally quite damaging for my mental wellbeing. January is hard enough without the added pressure of breaking a resolution because you’ve skipped one gym session. Rome wasn’t built in a day and as adults, this goes for us too!
As a family (when I say this, please note the likelihood I’ve run this past Connor is unlikely), we’re going to get out and do stuff. The park, long walks, the museum… We’re going to make memories and fill the cold, raining bleak days with fun and laughter, one way or another. 31 days is far too long to be miserable and we’ll start the year as we mean to go on.