So, the Pink Sparkly Miss is getting married and, up until recently she was really looking forward to it. All the plans have dropped onto place, things are all set up with the venue, music and entertainment, singing lessons are going really well (yes I said singing lessons) and the pick and mix is all sat on my bedroom,, making my mouth water whenever I go in there! So far I’ve refrained from tucking into them. Its getting tougher though !
You would think that given all the above everything should be peachy baby. Sadly though it’s not, and here’s why …
So my wedding dress, which I ordered in April, with a lady in Vietnam, is yet to be dispatched. We are 3 weeks away from the ‘big day’ and it’s not even on it’s way. Initially I wasn’t too concerned but, it appears that other people are all very concerned. This concern is now rubbing off on me. Antsy (love that word) is a mahoosive understatement! So there’s that. Although it is being despatched on Friday! Please keep all things that are crossable crossed, and all being well it will be here the end of next week. Failing that I’m wearing Jean’s.
Next up, wedding accommodation is causing me a big headache . Now, all the weddings I’ve attended I’ve always sorted my own accommodation and not relied upon the bride to do it for me. Not so for our wedding.
We are in a big farmhouse and due to family being scattered from one end of the country to the other we obviously have a full house. I’m really excited to have everyone around us and share in the build up. Except for one family member who is being more than a little difficult.
The wedding date has been set since the beginning of the year. Plenty of time for family and friends to take it on board, and now 3 weeks before, a certain individual is being what only can be described as a pain in the frickin ass …
Firstly questioning why I wanted to get married on the date we’ve selected. Rude.
Then going so far as to say that if certain music was played she likely wouldn’t come. (Hurrah) but even ruder.
When her sons very new girlfriend wasn’t included on invite, and we explained it was immediate family only, took the hump and sent a shitty reply saying they’d join us in the evening … with everyone else. Okie dokie !
Latest issue is her complaining about the transport WE have provided to get everyone to the venue.. and back again.
Besides this, after we have juggled the rooms at home to accommodate everyone, we’ve had messages saying is no issue for them to book a hotel! WTAF! is up to her entirely, I actually don’t care what she does! just get on and bloody do it and stop bothering me with her childish displays of brattiness .
There is soooooo much more this particular individual is doing that I feel really bad about and can’t share as it upsets me too much.
I am now at the stage where I want to just say to her not to bother coming.
To many people I suspect that I’m being ridiculous and there are a few eyes rolling in their sockets right now! If it wasn’t impacting on my health so badly I don’t think I’d be so agitated. But it is, a massive amount!
I’m struggling to sleep, got upset tummy, having migraines and my pain levels are through the roof. All my carefully made plans for a quiet December to save energy for the wedding are out the window already.
Apart from bitch slapping her and running over her in Mildred, or better yet, Doris I’m at my wits end with her.
Every other person has said we’ll sort ourselves which I am eternally grateful for. No one else has batted an eyelid when we said no gifts.
It makes me sad that I’m allowing one individual to spoil my excitement in the build up to the big day. No matter what I do I can’t stop this bothering me, a lot!
So I’ve now worked out a coping strategy …
Firstly selfcare comes top of the list, family has offered me massage, reflexology and reiki.
I’ve upped my physio sessions to twice a week.
I’ve been booked into a spa day for top to toe pampering. Oh I’m soooo looking forward to that!
I’m taking time out for meditation and self reiki and if all that doesn’t get my happy smiley face, sparkle, and pizzazz back I really don’t know what else to do.
So, what have I learnt ?
Self care is the most important thing for anyone, pass me the rescue remedy please. pronto!!
Being aware and accepting that somethings and people in general are out of my control (gulp, that’s a tough one)
And finally some people don’t like it if they are not going to be centre of attention. They will then go out of their way to be as awkward as they can. And oh boy is she excelling on that front!
I now realise , that says more about her than me. So if I want to get through the next 3 weeks with my sanity intact and keeping my hands from finding their way around her neck I need to find me my happy place and rise above it. Man is that ever tricky !
Im now off looking for my sparkle, if anyone finds it please feed it wine and chocolates in large amounts. It needs it. Give it a big cwtch too please, it needs it!
Pink Sparkly Miss… out😘