I feel like I have blinked and we are heading into Autumn already, this year in particular has absolutely flown so far, and as we head into my favourite time of year I have started to reflect on some of the things I have learnt so far.
This is key for me; I often live my life at a 100 mile a minute and find it out to sit and truly enjoy the moment I am in.
And although this is something that still needs work, I have noticed over the past year how much I have stopped even if just for a minute and reflected on the moment I am in and felt grateful. Grateful for where I am and what I am doing.
Know that there will always be an after
In some of my darkest times in 2018 I genuinely never felt like I would feel better, I never thought there would be a time where I would feel happiness again.
And you know what? I did and I have.
And now when I feel myself having those down days (that we all do) I tell myself, this day will pass, you will feel better tomorrow, and it almost always works.
Never stop believing in love
Loving someone, no matter how hurt you have been in the past is one of the most life changing beautiful things you can do. Love is truly one of the best feelings in the world. I don’t want to become cynical; I don’t want to think I will never be loved again because I know I will. I know the love I give out to people it is special and worth continuing to do, no matter how much I have been hurt in the past.
Always tell people what they mean to you
I was always told as a child, don’t go to sleep on an argument. Yet it was something in the last couple of years I lost my way with. But it is so important, I try to always tell those around me what they mean to me, as if it will be the last time I get to do so. I suppose it may sound a little morbid, but when you have lost people you love it makes you more aware how short, yet special life really is.
This year I have really felt I have turned a corner with my lifestyle and 9 months in I am starting to see the benefits. Yes I still have days where I eat unhealthily, or days where I don’t go the gym but 80% of the time I am completely on it. And it has helped my state of mind more than anything else and for that I am extremely grateful.
Never stop reading
Read books, read articles, magazines anything you can get your hands on.
I have learnt the past couple of months the art of putting my phone down and reading things that interest me. I think it is so important to continue to learn and continue to keep your mind focused on something other than social media.
Look after your friendships
A good friendship doesn’t just miraculously happen or continue, no matter how long you have been friends. A good friendship takes effort on both parts and I love my friends old and new, and this year I have made a conscious effort to be there for others as much as they are there for me.
Try things that scare you
This has been key for me this year; I have constantly pushed myself out of my comfort zone and said yes to things that in the past I would have turned down.
And in those moments where I have felt out of my depth or scared, I have reminded myself how far I have come and how proud I am of myself. And in those times of self-doubt I have listed the things that I am good at and re read them until I believed them.
Be kind and forgive
Because quite frankly you don’t know what that other person has gone through or may still be going through, so I try every single chance that I get to be kind to others and treat them how I would wish to be treated.
Stop thinking about what if
And learn to live in the here and now. I am slowly learning I cannot change the past and I can’t predict the future, but what I can do is stop stressing. Stop stressing about times gone by and just look to the future as positively as I can.