I am officially in my late twenties. I’m 28 today. Maybe I reached my late twenties last year, but now I REALLY feel in my late twenties. I’m not feeling the thought of being an inch closer to reaching the big 30. I get the feeling that people are already itching to tell me that I’m entering the 30-40 bracket of my life.
Remember when we were kids, when we used to think that by the time we reached 20, or even 18, we’d have our life together? I always thought I would get married in a castle wearing a Barbie style wedding dress, be a Mum to boy and a girl, own a cat/dog and live in a beautiful mansion with furniture from the Argos catalogue throughout. Ah, those days were innocent weren’t they?!
Look at me, I’m now 28, still living at home, not in my forever job, still single, a cat mother and all my friends are more far ahead in their life than I could ever currently aspire to. Reading that back makes me want to grab the Vodka and drown my sorrows.
However, it isn’t all bad. I have reached another year where Cystic Fibrosis hasn’t beaten me, I’m still running this blog after nearly five years, I’ve got a wonderful support network around me, I have a home (not my own, but still) , I have food, water, electric, clothes on my back and in some perspective, my health. That to me is like winning the Lottery, anything extra are just perks to me. My other ducks may not be in a row, but I want to appreciate all the other things I have in life, because some may not be so lucky to have that.
There is no need to pressure ourselves to be at certain points in our lives. I have felt like I have fallen behind everyone else in the past, but what I have learnt over the months and years is that we all take different detours in life, mine is just somewhat different to my friends and family. I love having that freedom of just being with myself and I’m ok with that.
I will always chose to follow my pathway rather than feeling the pressure and need to follow somebody else’s just so I think I have my sh*t together. Don’t compare your path to somebody else’s, it’s just not worth the mental strain and detrimental impact it can also have on your mental wellbeing. Comparison really doesn’t get you anywhere.
When reading this post, I want people to know why it’s ok to not have your sh*t together in your late twenties. Well, whatever age you are. Age is just a number, remember that.
I do genuinely believe that you should have fun in your twenties, your twenties is that enjoyable part of your life, where (hopefully) you invest in wonderful experiences and learn so much about yourself. Travelling, meeting friends, going ‘out-out’, discovering your values, discovering your sexuality, carving out your dream career, graduating from uni/college and just appreciating life. Obviously being in your twenties means you get a heap load of responsibilities tied around your neck, for example, saving money, getting a job etc and that’s ok. Let’s face it, you’re going to have to take on these sort of responsibilities whether you want to or not, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t savour life in your twenties.
So guys, it’s ok to not have your sh*t together right now, just enjoy being in your twenties and you do things in your own time and at your own pace. You do you boo.