I want to write about a topic that makes me angry.
A topic that doesn’t get spoke about enough in my opinion.
Changing your name when you get married….. or divorced for that matter.
As a female who works in education and who is going through a divorce, this is extremely relevant to me.
Ok so let’s say Mr Smith got married or divorced. Parents and colleagues wouldn’t know. It stays private.
But if Mrs Smith gets married or divorced, it’s evident to everyone because her whole identity changes.
I find myself hiding behind my married name at work still because I don’t want to let parents know that I failed. I don’t want to have to explain to the children why my name has changed.
The same goes for my title. I have been treated so differently when being addressed as Mrs than Miss.
Mrs is like you’ve made it. You’re a grown up.
Miss is like you’ve either not made it or failed.
Why do women have to have these very personal details on show to the whole world, yet men are always just Mr no matter what.
Your name is your identity. It’s what makes you you, so why do us women have to sacrifice that?
In a world that has come so far in terms of gender equality, it still has so much further to go.