I was wondering if you could help me please, and keep this anonymous.
I feel as though my friends don’t support my side hustle. I started it back in the depths of lockdown last year, turning something I love to do into a mini business. My online community have been wonderfully supportive, but my ‘real life’ friends have either been completely uninterested, or have even been quite dismissive. As if it’s a phase I’m going through, not something I’m actually passionate about.
I engage with some other small business owners online, who all state how grateful they are that their friends share their content or purchase their items as gifts. It just makes me wonder why mine don’t act like that. I’m scared if I bring it up then it’ll lead to an argument, or they might even say something that makes me even sadder about it.
Firstly, congratulations on starting your mini business. It is fabulous to hear that you have turned your creativity into a money maker. A huge credit to you for that.
Sometimes it is frustrating because we would love for our friends and our family to know exactly what we need from them. However, we need to remember that they are not mind readers. It would be one thing if you have asked your nearest and dearest for support and they simply did not respond accordingly. But in this instance, you have not vocalised this to them yet. Therefore, this is your first port of call.
You do not have to ask them out right for general support. Instead, you could ask for specifics. For example, you could ask them if they will share a social media post or accompany you at a networking event. You could even organise a get together at your place where you show them what you have been working on. This may open their eyes to what you have been doing and prompt them to more actively support you.
It is worth remembering that different friends can offer you different types of friendship. One of the advantages of social media is that it allows you to find like minded people. If your online community have been better at supporting you with your mini business, it might not mean that they are better friends, rather that they better understand the world of the side hustle.
Good luck for the next year for you and your business. I hope your friends come through for you.